Heidi n Q

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  1. Hello everyone! I returned from California on Sunday and have been busy getting everything ship-shape here at home. Husband's version of a clean house is not my standard and the yard and pool appear to have been a bit neglected. As you know, I flew out to CA because Mom came home from the hospital under Hospice care and I needed to be there to help care for her while my Sister was at work. Sis and I thought we had 2 weeks, tops, to spend with her but she rallied and continued to improve. She has needed no Morphine for pain or Lorazapam(sp?) for anxiety for 5 weeks and her mental acuity improved dramatically. She was her sassy self! She is still bed-bound and under Hospice care, but a Physical Therapist came out to evaluate her and we believe with some work, we can get her to where she can assist during a transfer from bed to wheelchair (for outdoor visits to her yard!) to recliner chair to watch TV. Ultimate goal is ambulatory, but that may not be achievable due to her heart working at only 40% capacity after her last heart attack while in the ER and circulation for lower legs being very weak. With Mom improving, Sis and I discussed the nursing service we had initially hired, at great cost. They were simply too expensive to continue long-term. We found a private person who had hospice care-giving experience through my sister's friend network and hired her to care for Mom during the hours Sis is gone from the home for work. She worked during my last week at home so I could show her the routine and where everything was in the house and kitchen. She is a doll and Mom likes her much better than the nurse we had through the service. This gal has a sister who goes to school nights, has the same experience with Hospice care-giving and she is interested in being the relief person for her sister's days off. So I'm home. My kitties definitely missed me. My horses recognized me - and wanted their pellets. I've been spending time getting everything in order here at home and I'll swim this afternoon. Anyhow, I've missed HC and will go read through everything I missed while I was gone.
  2. I *love* Sean Connery, but I never saw any Bond movies until Casino Royale with Daniel Craig, so DC is it for me.
  3. Send the member a private message and hope the email they registered with is still active.
  4. It appears PhotoBucket requires payment before they will allow 3rd party hosting of images and I'd like to remove the ugly PB image from my signature.
  5. I don't care for fair food - too delicate of a digestive system. I love seeing the exhibits; livestock, mechanical and home goods. In fact, I *miss* county fairs because Georgia's "fairs" are a laugh - their "fairs" are only midway rides and some food vendors. Haven't been to the State Fair in Perry, I may have to make that a priority soon. CA county and state fairs were going on while I've been here in CA but I've been too wrapped up with family to get away.
  6. I agree that our votes do need to count and shouldn't be lost to whim or malice. However, "the Russian hack" .... if I am understanding correctly .... was not voting machines actually being "hacked" or tampered with, but was social media stories that may have *influenced* voting? Doesn't seem much different from politicians slinging mud at each other with paid commercial advertisements. In fact, it seems more laughable to me, in an everything-on-the-internet-is-TRUE!!! sort of way. This country needs to be better educated so the populace won't easily fall for such tactics and will think for themselves.
  7. Seems improbable that there would be enough Russian operatives to hack the numerous and variable individual voting machines across the country in order to get the voting results they wanted.
  8. I *saw* your Teresa May observation with regards to Trump and Putin and IT IS THE SPECIFIC OBSCENE PHRASING YOU USED that earned you your suspension. Not using "ennui" in a sentence. Geesh. You can't BS us when we've SEEN the truth. Were I Admin, I would absolutely refuse to make that public because it was bad enough the first time that it (and you) needed to be removed. When someone shows their bahookie in public and gets slapped with Indecent Exposure, no one wants to see the bahookie again just so the person can prove (again) why they needed a ticket. You'll just end up in jail as a repeat offender.
  9. I can't believe the amount of rain parts of the country are getting. *thoughts/prayers* Mom kept wanting us to check on Dad (who passed in 2004) last night. We got her distracted and she quieted down. Thanks for the great advice. Sister and I talked and we agree that unplanned visits would be best because then she doesn't have time to worry over it. The house is easy to keep picked up and I'll vacuum more often in case people drop in.
  10. Tonight, Mom wanted a damp washcloth so she could wash her husband's hand. She was washing mine, but Sis and I just went along with it and distracted her with Gelato ice cream.
  11. Difficult. We've had two difficult days in a row that left me in tears. It isn't Mom's fault that her thoughts are rambling and I remind myself of this so I don't take it personally, but it is still painful. She wants out of the bed or to be taken for a car ride but we cannot even get her to sit up without 4 people helping to make sure she is safe. We hate telling her no and having to keep lifting her legs back into the bed and she hates us denying her what she wants. Her body simply cannot do what she wants it to do and if Sister and I try, we'll end up hurting her and/or ourselves. Mom was so upset the other night she said she wanted to call the authorities because her family was abusing her. Last early evening, she had just told my Sister and I that she did not want any visitors that evening - none were planned so all was good. Sis then had to take her son into town to pick up his car at the mechanic's and I was alone w/ Mom. Phone rings, it is her pastor who wanted to come visit her and I told him Mom wasn't up for visitors. When I told Mom who called, she became upset because she *did* want to see him. I go online to get the number for the church and call, letting them know Mom did want to see her Pastor. They said they'd send him a message and he would call us. Meanwhile, Mom is now worrying about everything that needs to be done for his visit; the house and Mom need to be presentable. I work well under pressure and can prioritize like no one's business so I let Mom know what I am going to do and get started. Only to be interrupted by her yelling for me to come to her, where she rambles about the things I am already trying to do and is directing me to do things that are unnecessary. For appeasement's sake, I do what she asks and keep trying to complete the vacuuming but she keeps yelling for me to come to her. She is getting more and more agitated and then she tells me to turn off the TV and stop making noise with the vacuum. She doesn't want to see the Pastor and we need to pretend as if we aren't home. She's crying, I'm crying and that, of course, is when the Pastor calls us back. He was very kind when I explained to him that Mom is having a difficult time and that tomorrow would be better. He asked after me because I couldn't hide that I was crying, asking if there was anything he could do for us and I told him no. Mom tends to get stuck in a loop when she gets upset and it makes me upset to see her that way and know there isn't anything I can do to fix it. Even while it seems Mom is out of it and unaware, she still knows. After we both had calmed down, she pulled me in for a hug and we reminded each other how much we love each other. They are coming fewer and farther between, but those are the moments I treasure with my Mom. The Pastor has called this morning and it looks like he will stop by after lunch - which is a very good time for Mom's alertness. Mom's nurses will be out before then to bathe her and change her leg bandages. I got the carpet vacuumed, everything is picked up and dusted. Mom will be fresh, clean and have clean bedding. Sister and I also picked out a nice top for her to wear instead of her open-backed hospital-bed jammies.
  12. Jubal will be giving tractor pulls, yeeehaaaaw!
  13. Some people feel they can't get another animal right away and some need to. Each is right for that person. I also agree that a new pet never replaces. I think of it as *honoring* your recently lost pet by sharing the love you gave to your former pet with another who is now in need of that love. <3
  14. It was 107 yesterday and tomorrow or Thursday we are supposed to reach 109. Ugh, waaaaaay too hot for me!
  15. ^^^ LOL That was a great story!
  16. Whew! I like this news.
  17. Sister and I humor her and just play along. It is easier, and keeps her calmer, than trying to convince her away from her reality.
  18. Ooooh! He looks athletic!
  19. Looks like the swelling had gone down. Is she more comfortable?
  20. yes
  21. ^^^ I agree. I feel 14-22 is prime age for horses. My grade Appy gelding didn't start to show his age (lighter topline, bonier shoulders/hips and slight loss of muscle tone) until he was 26.
  22. Wow! I love the saturated color of your glories! I may need to find a spot at my place to see if I can get some to grow. I've been here just over a week and I am beginning to see a trend towards more frequent agitation requiring calming medication. She had an episode at 2am that Sister and I handled and again this morning about an hour ago. She wound herself up, then said she couldn't breathe (because she was wound up), wouldn't listen to me suggestions for helping her calm down, became agitated all over again at seeing the medicine, started to calm down when I put it out of sight but then ramped up again and I let the nurse give it to her because she wasn't making sense - talking about pillows, wanting to get out of bed (she can't) and rattling off numbers that sounded like phone numbers. It was an upsetting start to my day.
  23. *thoughts/prayers*
  24. That is a funny story! I like how your brother kept guiding you. It made me smile. My husband gets frustrated at connecting the stereo, dvd and tvs together so that is my job. I make sure to do it during daylight hours with plenty of light, all of the manuals for each component and then I tape labels to each wire so if they come apart for any reason *cough* cats *cough-cough* I can just read it and plug it back to where it says without having to pull out the manuals again. Labeling also helped me during our moves as the labels stayed on the wires and told me where to plug each end in.
  25. I've seen that and thought it was funny! ...though I can see where some may not appreciate it. I say: If the shoe doesn't fit, you don't have to wear it. But if it *does* fit .... well, you know how the story goes! LOL