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  • Posts

    • Entirely NOT your fault. Nothing you could have done would have helped him. Professional help is what he needed.
    • You are NOT a horrible person.  You were friendly and kind to him.  When his behavior escalated and you were not prepared for that level of intimacy in a friendship relationship, you backed off and asked him nicely to give you space.  He didn't respect your wishes and continued to push which forced you to create barriers to protect yourself.  While reading along, I was thinking your next step would have been a TPO with law enforcement. No one is responsible for any other person's behavior or actions.  I'm very sorry, but your HS friend had deeper issues than you would have been able to fix, or even mitigate in the slightest.  Had you returned his call, I truly feel in my heart, that he would have continued his clingy and needy behavior and driven you away more firmly.  I also feel that contacting him would only have delayed the inevitable - because you still wouldn't have known the cause of his depression, and without professional intervention, his behavioral course was set.   I'm sorry you are feeling so badly over this.  Please try not to let it affect you too deeply.  I truly feel there is nothing you could have done differently to prevent this from happening.  Take care of yourself as you process this.  Do you think maybe speaking with a counselor could help you through this?  
    • DO NOT put this on yourself.  From what you explained there were issues & it has nothing to with you. 
    • Hey all. Im kind of in a bad place right now. I dont know if I mentioned earlier (months) on this thread that I had reconnected (as friends) with a guy from high school via Facebook. He was a great guy in high school. We had phone conversations almost every day. I ended up breaking that off and telling him not to contact me anymore because he became very clingy, needy, and forward very quickly. He didn't take that well and I had to block him on Facebook as well as block his number from my phone. Although his number was blocked on my phone, for some weird reason he was still able to leave voicemail messages. He had finally left me alone for a month or so, but then started back a few weeks ago. He left voicemails apologizing and asking to start over, and for me to call him back. I never returned his call. Two weeks ago he made a new Facebook page and sent me a friend request, I declined. Friday afternoon he left a voicemail asking me to please give him a call. Saturday, he shot and killed himself. I can not help to think that I was part of the reason he killed himself. If I hadve just returned his call...I feel like a horrible horrible person. 
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