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#1 foxlover

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Posted 03 August 2010 - 10:02 PM

Today hubby and I did not get along great. We work together almost daily, and some days are trying. We have had his twin grandkids here for 4 days also, probably part of it. They are 11 and naughty!! Their mom doesn't discipline them, and you can tell.

Anywho, we took them back to get picked up by their mom in the city 1 1/2 hrs. away. Hubby seemed tired and kind of crabby. We get to the mall, he wants to park in a spot that was aways from where we were going in. I said "I bet there's something closer up there, so he drives that way and there is no spot 'right up front, first row'. He gets an attitude and says to me "That spot wasn't good enough, so I'm parking over here which is closer according to you!" We were way down, not even by any cars, had to walk quite far into the mall. I mean way down where there was noone. Just being a smart@$$. I told him I was tired of his crabbiness and slammed the truck door and walked to the mall alone. The grandkids came up and said "Grandpa is crabby isn't he?" I said yup! Then he just sat in the truck awhile, I didn't care. He thought I'd be looking for him and come back, but I didn't.

Hmmmph, men! Can live with them, can't legally shoot them either. I know where there is a old well.....................

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Posted 03 August 2010 - 10:07 PM

'Eh.. EVERYONE gets crabby once in a while... whether it's because of situation or having to deal with grandkids.. kids.. etc. Best just to leave them be for a while. They get better. lol confused0024.gif crazy.gif

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Posted 03 August 2010 - 10:08 PM

Hmmm...old wells might be easier than putting him under a rock pile...hafta store that thought away...

My husband gets crabby too, usually when he hasn't had any "down time" at home. You guys were just camping, then you had the kids come and you both had to run your business...then you had to drive 90 miles to drop off the kids. Is it possible he just needs some down time himself?

If so...tell him to get over it. winking0073.gif

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He might just need a day to veg.



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Posted 03 August 2010 - 10:13 PM

If I get crabby he lets me know it right away! I have never parked a mile away just to be a jerk. Camping was relaxing and his down time. He also had yesterday off, so he shouldn't be crabby. Except for the grandkids...........

Sorrel, a rock pile sounds like too much lifting. crazy.gif

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Posted 03 August 2010 - 10:21 PM

If he has calmed down you might need to initiate a calm conversation about what happened. Maybe there is something on his mind, maybe he wasn't feeling good, maybe he didn't want to part with the grandkids yet...and instead of handling it in an adult manner, he got a bit childish. Talking with him about it might keep it from happening again and let him know how it hurt you.

And as for the rock pile, that is one of my mom's threats...she always tells my dad "There's lots of rock piles in North Dakota...they'll never find your body!" rotf.gif

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Posted 03 August 2010 - 10:41 PM

Not an old well- he might contaminate the ground water- that would be bad. Then when they trace the contamination back to the well they would find him. Let's see- to tired tonight to come up with something good. Will have to think on it and get back to you. Greater minds than mine are out there- somebody will come up with somewhere great for you to put him- and easy! rotf.gif
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Posted 03 August 2010 - 11:32 PM

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Posted 04 August 2010 - 01:23 AM

Instead of blaming him maybe it is something you did that got on his nerves...
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Posted 04 August 2010 - 05:20 AM

QUOTE (yarrabeestockhorses @ Aug 4 2010, 06:23 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Instead of blaming him maybe it is something you did that got on his nerves...


NOT!!! Don't even go there. bang_head.gif

The man was crabby. All men (and women) all get that way sometimes. It's not pretty. But looking at yourself for the cause every time someone gets crabby.... that way lies madness.

Maybe a soothing cup of tea would help? Got any foxgloves in your garden??? Of course, then you'd have to hide the body and it's awfully hot for all that work. Can't it wait till January???
By that time, he'll be over it and you will have forgotten it. I vote for tabling this till January. grin.gif
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Posted 04 August 2010 - 06:19 AM

QUOTE (yarrabeestockhorses @ Aug 4 2010, 02:23 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Instead of blaming him maybe it is something you did that got on his nerves...


Then he should have acted like a grown up and just said "That is really getting on my nerves" and not started acting like a kid throwing a hissy fit. It is up to each of us to handle our emotions properly. If someone is doing some thing that ticks us off and we can't be mature enough to say something before we get all crabby that is OUR fault, laying the blame on other people for our own lack of maturity and self control is a cop out.

If I acted crabby toward everyone who got on my nerves I'd be crabby all the time, lol. That isn't THEIR fault. MY emotions and reactions are entirely under MY control. If I don't control them that is MY problem.
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Posted 04 August 2010 - 07:15 AM

Thanks WarPony, you are right. I get crabby, but I don't act like that. He is fine now, I am sure it was the kids. After 4 days we are glad to take them back home. He even said yesterday "It's time, isn't it!" I agreed readily.
He asked if we were going to get along today (and laughed cuz he knew I was torked at him).
I have my big doctors appt. with my surgeon today and we pick a surgery date so I want to be in a good mood.

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Posted 04 August 2010 - 07:25 AM

QUOTE (foxlover @ Aug 4 2010, 08:15 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Thanks WarPony, you are right. I get crabby, but I don't act like that. He is fine now, I am sure it was the kids. After 4 days we are glad to take them back home. He even said yesterday "It's time, isn't it!" I agreed readily.
He asked if we were going to get along today (and laughed cuz he knew I was torked at him).
I have my big doctors appt. with my surgeon today and we pick a surgery date so I want to be in a good mood.


Might not have been as much crab as nerves over another surgery. Either way, just Dinozo him. (smack him up side the back of the head... NCIS reference) rotf.gif

Good luck with you appt and up coming surgery.

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Posted 04 August 2010 - 07:44 AM

When mine gets that way, I just tell him to quit being such an a@@ tongue0009.gif . Seriously, we're very honest with each other lol. I hold nothing back!
I'm glad to hear he's snapped out of it. It sounds like maybe he was ready for the kids to go home. He could be stressing some over your upcoming surgery too. I think I would ask him what the deal was though, but that's just me.
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Posted 04 August 2010 - 08:13 AM

Good luck with your Dr. apt.
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Posted 04 August 2010 - 11:02 AM

They don't call it "Pissy Man Syndrome" for No Reason, lol!

They need to make Midol & Tampons for men, I swear! Jeff's 19 yr old son gets really red in the face when he gets snippy at me & I'll whip one or the other out of my purse. rotf.gif

Or when I ask him if he got sand in his hoo hoo again. happy0203.gif

(Hey, it's payback for ALL the crabbiness he's treated me with over the last 4 years, he's finally noticing that he's not getting to me anymore, I fight crabbiness with humor!)

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Posted 04 August 2010 - 01:24 PM

This is a thread I've been trying to find a rebuttal for. Personally I think it is not just crabby men, but crabby men & women. Some of us bring out the beast in our mates at times. We also take the people closest to us for granted, & lash out at them in anger, instead of where it should be directed. I've loved my wife for over 40 years, but she knows just how to push my buttons at times, & sees the beast in me. PD

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Posted 04 August 2010 - 01:31 PM

QUOTE (journeysgirl @ Aug 4 2010, 08:25 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Might not have been as much crab as nerves over another surgery. Either way, just Dinozo him. (smack him up side the back of the head... NCIS reference) rotf.gif


Around here we call that "Giving him a Gibbs". lol.

QUOTE (PineBarSissy @ Aug 4 2010, 08:44 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
When mine gets that way, I just tell him to quit being such an a@@ tongue0009.gif . Seriously, we're very honest with each other lol. I hold nothing back!


Yeah, when Tsu gets all wedged into his crabby pants I just look at him and say, "Crabby @$$ much, dear?" and that usually makes him laugh and breaks his mood.

Or I ask if he needs to change his tampon, which usually makes him look ashamed, THEN laugh (I save that one for when he is at about 5 out of 10 on the pissy scale).

If he gets REALLY bad, I calmly say, "Can you please explain to me exactly what I did to deserve being treated this way? Because if you are mad about something else and just taking it out on me that is completely inappropriate, and if you are actually mad at me and just haven't had the ***** to speak up and say so then you need to man up and tell me what crawled up your butt and died so i can pull it out for you." After a decade together... now as soon as I say, "Can you please explain..." He gets this look on his face and rapidly blurts out either that he is being a jerk and he will knock it off, or he unloads all his grievances for the last 7 or 8 months. Either way it ends the mood and makes the world a happy place for everyone, and the villagers rejoice. .

foxlover, I hope today goes much better and everything goes well with your surgery when you have it.

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Posted 04 August 2010 - 01:42 PM

LOL try going in to the ER and having the dr tell you you have an STD so one of you HAD to have slept arround..... OH yeah thats an arguement starter...
LAter we find out that i DONT have an STD they MISSDIAGNOSED me and im STILL going in for more testing as i have aHUGE lump in my side and some excess fluid on my ovaries (possible ruptured cysts)

So i understand where your comming from hubbys ben VERY crabby lately but weve ben stressed out as you have over health reasons

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Posted 04 August 2010 - 01:51 PM

I feel ya! The BF is always crabby. 1.) he always wants his way and he doesnt get it theres a tempper tantrum like a 3yr old and 2.) Remodeling really tries your nerves around each other. haha

I learned to just do as you did and walk away, gives ya both a cool down time before it escalates.
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Posted 04 August 2010 - 06:31 PM

QUOTE (foxlover @ Aug 4 2010, 08:15 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
He asked if we were going to get along today (and laughed cuz he knew I was torked at him).

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QUOTE (WarPony @ Aug 4 2010, 02:31 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
If he gets REALLY bad, I calmly say, "Can you please explain to me exactly what I did to deserve being treated this way? Because if you are mad about something else and just taking it out on me that is completely inappropriate, and if you are actually mad at me and just haven't had the ***** to speak up and say so then you need to man up and tell me what crawled up your butt and died so i can pull it out for you."
After a decade together... now as soon as I say, "Can you please explain..." He gets this look on his face and rapidly blurts out either that he is being a jerk and he will knock it off, or he unloads all his grievances for the last 7 or 8 months. Either way it ends the mood and makes the world a happy place for everyone, and the villagers rejoice. . .

O *gasp* M *gasp* G! *gasp-gasp* I cannot breathe *gasp!* because I'm *gasp* LAUGHING so hard!
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Posted 04 August 2010 - 07:01 PM

I think I'm going to try that the next time my hubby gets all cranky. He is constantly getting mad at someone else and taking it out on me.