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  1. The "circle Of Trust" Pt. Ii

    It has definately been a long time since I have came around. So much has changed. Firstly, I want to apologize for my posts in mid July. I care not to rehash them. I was not in a good place with myself and was basically having a break down. I made it through a better person, though. Or I would like to think so atleast. On November 16, Jon and I tied the knot at the courthouse with my parents and his mom there. Maybe the reason for "hey, let's do this" wasn't the best, but looking back, I truly wish I would have done it sooner. We were moving into my grandma's house which has been vacant since she passed away last year. The reason for moving was to free up finances and to get away from some stressful things. The one stipulation for living there was getting married. I do not regret it one bit. Maybe later we will have a small ceremony or reception. But our hearts were completely in the right place. We both knew that it would happen one day, it was just a matter of going for it. That little kick in the rear. :) We have been together since April 1, 2009 and 'engaged' since March 1, 2010. I wished I had more to say, but I have a sick husband to go check on. (Yeah, sick right? I got sick the day after we got married and am just now coming off of it. He is going into it. O.o)
  2. Needing Some Advice.

    Oz, I agree whole heartedly. It is only on an acre of lad but I do not believe we saw any paperwork/bill on the land taxes. But we are able to work them off bu still. Prairie (your real name is escaping me), my parents are one to not have their noses in our business. When we lived with them, we were basically left alone. His mom had worked it out that we were thinking about it. She asked him about it when he went down there (they live right across a cow pasture. Less than 1/4 mile) to give her a birthday card. He has been afraid that they would take it bad. But they are alright with it. Stepdad just said to let him know what we are going to do but told us once we move out (if we choose to) that we could probably never move back because he would have someone in quick. So atleast we broke through a small barrier.
  3. Needing Some Advice.

    I appreciate all of the responses. I see it as a no brained move but he is very hesitant about it. We are "buying" the trailer only; not the land. However, when taxes rolled around last year, we had to pay the land taxes. I am just unsure of how to approach this since I am wanting to move and he is hesitant. With the repairs on y Grandmas, my parents are willing to help. With the repair on the trailer (and some of the minor ones we have had to do), it has come out of our pocket. Granted, it has only been a couple of water leaks and patching part of the floor but still.
  4. Needing Some Advice.

    I am short on time so I have only made it to Oz's reply. The way I worded it came out bad. It isn't a his verse hers deals. It is more on the lines he wouldn't feel comfortable there since it is my late Grandma's house and since it is less than 100 foot from both my parents and aunt. It is kind of as if he would feel as though he has no say. But I can promise you this, he is the farthest thing from controlling. He has told me he will move if I truly want to. I know we need to sit down and talk about it farther. I will come back and finish reading responses and reply. :)
  5. Needing Some Advice.

    My Fiance and I have officially came to our first big decision as to where we want different things in the 3.5 years we have been together. I will try and keep this as simple as possible. At the current moment, we are renting to own a single wide trailer from his mom/stepdad. This place needs work; bath/shower in master needs to be completely ripped out and redone, part of the floor in the dining/living room needs to be ripped up and the wood underneath repaired not to mention the floor needs redone, the front steps need fixed, and among some taxes I do nor believe we should pay. When my grandma passed last year, she left her house to my parents. SO and I have the option of moving in. This place also needs some work since it is an older farm house; roof to be repaired, two spots on the ceiling from leaks, new steps, and some TLC in general. SO was on board with me until I packed up 3 boxes and he saw the vacant spaces. He must have realized how attached he is to this place. I like this place as well, but my Grandma's place is free to live in (other than utilities). Only thing I'm not a fan of is being on the same property a my parents (the whole privacy/living on own thing. I have nothing against my parents. :] ). He is afraid that moving out there, he won't feel like it is his; like this place is. I truly want to move but I am afraid that he won't be happy. There are deeper reasons I wish to move but I do not wish to discuss them on an open forum. I do not know how to approach this and work out a solution that will benefit us both. At the current moment, we are struggling to make ends meet a lot of the time. Moving would add about 15-20 miles a day to work. But, he may have new job opportunities in that area. My honest wish would be to talk to his stepdad about putting a hold on payments for 2 or 3 months and us do a "trial move". The trailer is paid off so it is not as if he counts on our payments to pay this off. But this is real life and we are adults. I'm just looking for some incite on how I should approach this since we have never really been in a situation that could be better or worse.
  6. The "circle Of Trust" Pt. Ii

    I'm not really going to respond a great deal to my last post. It was a really bad time for me. To be honest, things haven't really gotten any better. Things are still rocky. I am slowly coming to terms (accepting? deciding?) that I should leave, or atleast take time apart. I weight the pros vs. cons of staying. Neither one of us is truly happy. He says he is, but I don't see happiness. Granted, PMS has been a great deal with my emotions this past week, but still. Even before that. I just have this sadness at times that overwhelms me. He truly is a great guy. He has the potiental to make a woman truly happy and get the love he deserves. I do not think that I have it in me to give him the love and affection that he deserves. I do not think that I want to try for 'us' any longer. I have given all I can. So here is my question/area that I neeed advice for. He has June 29th through July 9th off' a mandatory vacation from the plant (not paid but I will not get into that). I have the 4th off and have put in for the 5th/6th (paid by vacation time I have saved up). I am thinking about moving out at that time. I do not know if it will be under the terms of a break up or just taking time apart/no longer living together. I was over at my Grandma's (she passed away last October) house yesterday getting a feel for it and kind of cleaning up a little. I had mixed feelings of what to do. I spent a large part of the time just crying and talking to myself. I have never been in this situation before of trying to figure out what to do. Now here is where it gets rough/tricky. What do I take? A large part of the things we have (namely TVs [40" & 32"] as well as bedroom furniture/dishes), I have either paid for or brought into this relationship on my own. Whether my parents gave it to me or what-not. The 40", which I borrowed $200 from my parents for Christmas; both of us paying $200. Who gets it? I see it as myself considering that I will be leaving a washer/dryer (unless he moves out), a $200 fence I built for his puppy, and I am the one who has been paying for a collection that he let slide ($200 to date). I don't know what the boundries are as far as dividing or how to go about doing so. During his vavation, he will be at the lake the entire time. I borrowed the money for a real nice bedroom set that I will for sure take with. I guess the main deal is the 40" TV. My parents gave us the 32". I have bought him (over the course of 1.5 years): Playstation 2, XBox, and an XBox 360 with Kinect; as well as various games and hook ups. I will not take those. They were gifts for us. I do not really want to leave him without the TV, but my dad owns 1/4 since I have paid $100 on my debt. So basically, my dad and I own a quarter (by way of money situation) and he owns half. Who gets the TV? Then my next issue is how do I do this? Do I let Jon know that I am thinking about leaving or do I pack up then tell him? I do not want to break his heart but I deserve to be happy, to be able to find myself again and better my life. Broken hearts heal, right? If someone were to ask me if I truly loved him anymore, I would not know the answer. That alone, hurts me really bad. He deserves so much better. I guess I am just needing advice. I just simply do not know any more.
  7. The "circle Of Trust" Pt. Ii

    Once again, please do not give any negative comments about Jon. Please.
  8. The "circle Of Trust" Pt. Ii

    This will probably be rather long. But just a fore note, I am NOT looking for aggressive responses or any harsh negatives. I started dating Jon the first of April in 2009 through the Navy. We were both in the recruiting stages so we hadn't shipped out. In July, we dropped out and he moved in with me. Things were great and continued on that way. When his Pops passed away in September, we decided to move out west in January. If anyone remembers me talking about my time out there, will remember that it was a living h e l l for me. I came home, as well as he, 6.5 months later. My time out there changed me; hardened me. I was no longer a fun loving person anymore. We almost split that fall but decided to work on through it. A year goes by, things are doing good. Ya know? Not as many fights, or bad ones atleast. We are now in the later part of 2011. I hear of a job opening that pays almost double what he currently has. He takes it. Maybe I did push him into it but we were about to go under. His reason he didn't want to leave (told me yesterday) was that he had been there for a year and knew everything there as well as the people. He felt as if he owed it to his friends. My argument? He was working for just a quarter over minimum raise. Anyway. He has an agreeable termination, as I like to call it, in February. But while he is there, things are great. Not stressing about money. He was working nights so we had much needed time apart. After leaving K, He goes straight back to former place without even looking around; for exactly minimum wage. I make decent, but if by some chance I got pregnant, there is no way we could survive. We barely get by with us, 2 horses, 2 cats, and 2 dogs. But here lately, I have been miserable. More arguments than normal. Yesterday, we got into a bad one the worst in a while. Some really hurtful things were said that has me mentally packing my bags. 24 hours later, I feel nothing but depression and confusion. But it is also coupled with a very realistic dream I had last night. Everything was just the same as it is now. But I had met someone at a rodeo and it was great. After a day of hanging out, I came up front with him about my 3 year relationship that has a 2 year engagement in it (missed putting this up there, March 1, 2010 while out west. Crushed ring at ranch on accident that October). I have dreams like this from time to time and wake up happy. There is never any hanky panky so don't go there. . But this morning, I feel even more confused and torn. His mom/step dad are driving me nuts. They are great people, but I feel very judged with them. I have never in my near 22 years, felt this way. This is my first relationship. I feel as if I owe it to him to stay but I know he deserves someone better than me. It is ripping me apart to feel this way. I have a place to go if it came down to it but he would most likely loose where we are at and his car is acting funny so he doesn't drive it (we work the exact same hours so I drive him into town). I don't want to just abandon him. He had enough of that (him mom) when he was a kid. When we moved, I more or less lost all of my friendships. So I have no one to talk to. My mom knows that we are having problems, but I don't want to burden her with that. I know I need help, a therapist would be great for me if not for us. I just have no clue what to do. I don't want to see him hurt or fail. I care too much. I don't mean to type out a book, I just needed it off my chest.
  9. The "circle Of Trust" Pt. Ii

    He is such a gem. He is going with me to a wedding this evening. He hates formal clothes (slacks & dress shoes) but he is wearing them for me tonight. :)
  10. The "circle Of Trust" Pt. Ii

    Began dating: April 1, 2009, both of us 18. Engaged: March 1, 2010, both of us 19. Marriage: Clueless. Right now, I don't really see marriage any time soon. We both have some things that we need to work on ad individuals as well as a couple. We have been living together since July '09 and moved across the country together January '10 to July '10. We started renting to own our single wide in January '11 and will be payed off October '13.
  11. What To Wear?

    Dondie, I has already decided that. I am not a delicate person in spikes. ;). But thank you! :)
  12. Very interesting topic. :). I squeeze either in the bottom or middle. Regardless, when it gets to the bottom, I squeeze as much as humanly possible. Never a drop spaired.
  13. What To Wear?

    You are right, I am excited. But that is directed for the brides. I have known then for ten years, give or take for each. I have found out that the May wedding's theme is classy western. So I have that one in the bag. Thinking about using it as an excuse to get a new pair of boots. ;). But even then, I will not wear jeans. Maybe a long skirt or something. For the April wedding (winery) I am thinking about going with a pair of slacks, shirt, and heels. We shall see. :). Thanks again!
  14. What To Wear?

    Good points. Thank you! :)
  15. What To Wear?

    I am at a loss on what to wear. The last wedding I went to (and wasn't in) I was 16 or 17. One wedding is April 28th at a Winery and the second is May 19th at a church. The April wedding's colors are turquoise, purple, and silver; colors that I adore. The May wedding I do not know at the moment. I would prefer something with pants or capris that I could use for both, only do different shirt, shoes, ect. But I am open to any and all ideas as long as they are within a decent price range. :) I would wear a nice pair of jeans and boots but this is one time I wouldn't mind dressing a little more classy. Thank you in advance!