Heidi n Q

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About Heidi n Q

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  • Birthday 11/04/1966

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    Monroe, GA
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    animals, reading, sew/quilt, draw/watercolors

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    QB, (((hugs))). Who drove the train? I must admit, my imagination has your husband starting the train out, getting up to speed, putting auto-pilot on, walking back through empty cars to the First Class dining car and having dinner with his family as the train chugs merrily along. When dinner is done, he goes back to the engine car, so he can bring the train home and the family outing for dinner is over.
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    I hope it helps you. I can see this has bothered you greatly. As someone outside, looking in, everything I've said felt like truth. I just don't see how it could have been different, unless some small change of the outcome started with him.
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    I think it is normal to feel guilty after something like this. Take your time to process and come around to acceptance. I really, truly believe that if you had called him back, his behavior would have ramped up and it would have driven you away more firmly. As it is, I think you did the right thing by not calling him back. I'm sorry he did this, involved you and now you're feeling bad about it. I don't think there was anything you could have done for him. He wasn't being truthful with either himself or you, and you cannot be held accountable for that. You need to try not to hold yourself accountable as well. Think of it as more of a missed opportunity for a friendship. He violated the friendship lines. Perhaps if he hadn't, things might have been different .... but maybes and what-ifs aren't truths .... what we know for certain is his behavior is the root of all of this, not you. This is on him. (((hugs for you)))
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    You are NOT a horrible person. You were friendly and kind to him. When his behavior escalated and you were not prepared for that level of intimacy in a friendship relationship, you backed off and asked him nicely to give you space. He didn't respect your wishes and continued to push which forced you to create barriers to protect yourself. While reading along, I was thinking your next step would have been a TPO with law enforcement. No one is responsible for any other person's behavior or actions. I'm very sorry, but your HS friend had deeper issues than you would have been able to fix, or even mitigate in the slightest. Had you returned his call, I truly feel in my heart, that he would have continued his clingy and needy behavior and driven you away more firmly. I also feel that contacting him would only have delayed the inevitable - because you still wouldn't have known the cause of his depression, and without professional intervention, his behavioral course was set. I'm sorry you are feeling so badly over this. Please try not to let it affect you too deeply. I truly feel there is nothing you could have done differently to prevent this from happening. Take care of yourself as you process this. Do you think maybe speaking with a counselor could help you through this?
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    LC, I'm so sorry. (((hugs))) RRW, my fave pic is shortman on the jackalope and that wooden car really is beautiful. Toothpicks if you crash it, though!
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    I loved your vacation! Q - Sounds like you enjoyed the chili cookoff in spite of the non-participation of the Fire Department and the organizers. The Fire Dept not participating would have really bummed me out.
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    He was with other horses but they had recently traveled 3 days with them, overnighting at strange barns w/ strange horses and he didn't handle it well. The lady said he was "level 3 Parelli" but I have no idea what that entails. She and her husband fostered kids for many years and all of the children learned to ride on him. LC, it was more than 20yrs ago that I went to the Novato Renn Faire. The exhibits, performances and stages were more professional than you described them as being. I do not recall there being any horses at all.
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    little cow, I'm from Tracy, about an hour and a half SE of Novato. I've been to Novato's Renn Faire and loved the weather. I'm flying to CA tomorrow to attend my nephew's graduation from Loyola Marymount. Sis is driving down to LA today, I'll land tomorrow morning and she'll pick me up. We'll do tourist-y things with Blain and then attend his graduation the next day and drive home. I'll be in Tracy for about 5 days to visit w/ family and friends before coming home. RRW, I loved your pictures! Like Jubal, I didn't know Utah could look like that - I thought it was all desert. I'd have given a thumbs-down, too. The condition of the cars did look bad, especially compared to their restored ones! I briefly rode Ever yesterday after work and he did well. He was more concerned with not being able to see my other horses and we had to circle a few times when I thought he might try to make a break for them. I rode him bitless and for our next ride(s) I think I'll use the bit until he relaxes and we get used to each other. He was responsive and willing. Moved right out with a sweet little gait. Next time, I'll get someone to film him and take still pictures.
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    My rural hometown in California has become a huge "bedroom community" for the Bay Area. It has grown so much I don't recognize it when we go to town.
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    WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOT!!!! Congratulations!
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    I love all of the pictures. I can't get over how HUGE that railyard is!
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    You made me LOL because you look in dire need of Dudley Do Right!
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    Yay for Maggie getting dental work done. I had to google what a wave mouth was. All I can say is OMG!
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    Oh, I love your photos! I get to see things I wouldn't otherwise get to see. I think you guys do such fun stuff.
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    *prayers for Maggie*