Well geesh I am glad I didnt have to reveal to most of you ladies that I was pregnant in person as family memebers!
Since when is it appropriate to judge something that hasnt even happened yet? Regardless of her having a rough upbringing or not how do you know they will make poor parents? She is married, an adult and they both have jobs, he doesnt sound abusive and she doesnt sound like (from what you said) that she is a non stop irresponsible partier-what's the problem??
In this day and age (as someone said before me), at least she isnt 20 years old with THREE CHILDREN already and pregnant again! I know THREE girls I graduated with (I am 21) that have already had 2-4 children-obviously stuipid and irresponsible. I am not saying that this makes this girl's (the one in question) situation perfect or ideal (she is young, newly married etc) but I guess I am just encouraging you to see how much worse it could be.
I am 21 and 11 weeks pregnant with my first. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half. We both have very stable, decently paying jobs. We both are completing our college degrees. We live in a small, but nice apartment and both outright own our own nice-ish and very reliable cars (newer then 10 years old). We both come from divorced, but very supportive parents and supportive extended family. Although we are not married (we are wanting to have a big wedding and just dont have the finances to support the reception at this point) we love each other very much and have a very mature relationship. Although young, we know that we are right for each other. We were practicing *very* safe...uhh...activities and I just happened to fall in the 1% of women that being responsible doesnt always work for lol.
Anyhow, I have digressed a little but my point of sharing my story/situation is simply that to an aquaintence, co-worker, distant family friend or "outsider" we may seem like irresponsible 21 year olds who havent been together very long who got pregnant; but if you know us closely and know more about our situation and life then perhaps you wouldnt think it was *AS* bad of a thing as you initially thought it was.
Edited only to add; DONT assume (unless she told you this, you didnt mention either way) that because she is pregnant that she WASNT on or wasnt responsibly using/taking birth control. At the risk of giving too much info I was VERY reliably taking "the pill" AND we were using condoms...it does happen sometimes...