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Red, I was about to say I'm just being nosy... but...

Does anyone else read or listen to stories about children getting hurt or killed, to use that information to keep your children safe? I'm starting to think it's weird that I look for things like that - child predators, household hazards, animal encounters, etc... but I've pretty much always seemed to live by "forewarned is fore-armed". [Confused]

Oh, before I forget...

Mommies who are considering circumsizing your sons - find out who is going to be doing it (often it's the ob), and find out if they're in the habit of using any form of anesthetic. It wasn't an issue with ours, but I found out afterward that some drs believe that babies can't feel pain... or not like we do... or something along those lines. [Duh] Thank God the NICU drs knew better! Poor Collin was pinched, poked, prodded, and tested enough without having his little hooha cut without numby juice! [Eek!]

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thanks guys.

I have a good family doctor now and she does all my pap tests and all that and I trust her and know her well, been seeing her since i was 12.

So as long as she'll deliver babies which I'm pretty sure she does then that'll likely influence us into going to the close hospital and she works there.

Her office is about 20 minutes from home and she is always accesable to me even at the hospital emergency quite often so that's comforting.

True enough about depending on what kind of pregnancy, my mom was high risk with me and was an hour away from the hospital and had to stay there for a month! so in a difficult pregnancy a closer hospital would be best.

am I crazy for thinking about all this stuff now? I just want to be able to not have to stress about all this during pregnancy.

doctors are really hard to come by in our area so if you don't already have one chances of getting one are near impossible.

i could go to hubby's doctor but he's old and retiring soon and kind of getting lazy about it. and I've never been to see him before.

kind of comforting to know my doctor has been through 3 pregnancies of her own.

also when do they usually schedule the frist ultrasound?

I have this fantasy of telling our parents by putting an ultrasound pic inside a card for easter maybe? if things go as planned by easter I'd be about two months?

on the upside work hours changed for hubby and he will now come in earlier get home earlier and make about 12 grand more a year!! that's gonna help big time! not to mention we both get a raise in June!

my god it's scary I can't beleive we are actualy really ready for this!

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thanks Rose, I really want to be prepared.

This is a big step for us and I'm so impressed with Hubby, at first I thought he just thought he was ready for this but wasn't sure but he has no doubts at all, he will even put up with me talking about it a lot lately.

Geeze i love my husband, now I'll just have to remember that in my ninth month when I'm huge and hate him for it! [Wink]

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RRR-thanks for your thoughts on the whole birthing class. I wondered if they went over breastfeeding and what to do after the baby is born. I defintely have some serious questions about that as well. I am looking forward to starting the class after the new year.

Horse_gal: I got my first ultra sound when I went into the doctor for the first time. Of course that was b/c I was having some serious pain on my right side and they feared that I may have an eptoic pregnancy. Luckily I hadn't but what I did have was an ovarian cyst that had ruptured.

The first scheduled ultra sound my docs office has is at 20 weeks. You'll have to see what office you choose and what their protocol is for giving ultra sounds. Most insurance plans won't cover the u/s if it is not planned or needed. Somthing to consider as well. The two extra u/s that I had cost me something like 200.00 each! after my insurance covered their portion.

Good luck with your future pregnancy. Hopefully everything happens as it should!

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Hi all!

Thanks for starting the new thread!

I just had my first baby on 11/2/07, Lillian Grace.

She's pretty easy which makes me think I could have another one soon! [smile]

Ok, now I know with being busy with a baby I haven't been on here lately, but is onedaysoon aka ROK?????

So confused!

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ahhhhhhhhhhhh................so I'm not crazy! Just slow!!!! [smile]

So my fissure feels better already! I hope it will heal up and I won't have to have surgery...

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I'm a proud mother to:

Lexi who is 17 months

Avery who is 8 weeks

and will consider a 3rd child if I ever meet the right man and settle down again.

[ 12-12-2007, 07:45 PM: Message edited by: Stratus ]

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Zanit- our hospitals offer breast feeding classes seperately from the birthing classes.

The classes are good for general info. I thought I knew what to expect, but found it was much harder than i imagined. With Wyatt I made sure to get help in the hospital before I left. The lactations consultants were very, very helpful.

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Ours had a seperate class too...jsut lightly touched on it at the Birthing Class....our hospital also has a BFing support group to go to after the birth, etc.... [big Grin]

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Zanit- our classes were separate too. I went to a general bf'ing class but found it very elementary (ie - this is how a baby eats)...my recommendation is a good overall breastfeeding book - one you can refer to at home - because if you run into problems, its going to probably be once you're home.

and utilize the lactation consultants at the hospital and don't be shy - i let them manhandle my ***** and it was a godsend!!!!

Horsenfx! Hope this is the real deal for you!!!

Took Miss Lily to the dr. today for her 1 month checkup - she weighs 7 lb, 14 oz!!!! [Yay] So she's gained a whole pound since birth! She is also 2 1/2 inches longer. I'm so glad she's finally catching up!

Sounds so stupid, but it is amazing to me that my body can FEED a person...and successfully! [big Grin]

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Hi everyone!!

I am due 2/20/08 with my third, a GIRL!!! [smile]

I have two boys, John, who just turned four in October and Kyle, who just turned two in November. I love the boys to death and are so used to them that I'm not sure I'm going to know what to do with a girl....?? [Wink]

I had preeclampsia with both of my boys but so far, things are borderline with this pregnancy. Other than that, this one has been VERY different. I am carrying different, having different side effects, things to deal with, etc, etc... definatly tell it is not a boy. Both of my boys were a breeze up until the very end, when my B/P shot up, but it was within a few weeks of my due dates.

This one on the other hand, is a whole different story. I'm kind of scared to think how it might be once I have her. ha ha....

She will be our third and LAST child. Hubby is getting snipped in January.

I'll try to keep up with this thread, I get busy and don't get online all the time.

Have a good day.

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Wingranch, I'm the youngest of 3 - 2 older brothers...this little girl of yours is going to be spoiled -whether you try or not - my parents knew I would be the last one, i was an 'oops' - my mom was shocked when they told her I was a girl. My dad, the tough sports guy, MELTED. Your boys are going to probably be both protective and terrorize her at the same time! Mine used to tease me so badly - take my dolls and rip their heads off, stuff like that...

You are going to have SO much fun with your girl!

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Thanks everyone for the advise on the BF. I will utilize my resources while I am at the hospital and look for a good book to help me at home! Great Advise!

Hubby and I had our first heart to heart last night about the pending birth. We both don't know what to expect with this child, especially me and my work schedule. Can you other mommies tell me what you did after the birth of your child? I am trying to get a feeling for what I will be capable of and how much time I really need to take off of work.

I get 2 months of materinity leave but it is unpaid. So they are offering to allow me to work from home if I want to. I do want to work from home, but hubby seems to think that it will be to much for me. He gets really stressed out even thinking that I will be working.

The thing that worries me is that he is not prepared to take on all the bills that we have, especially my student loans every month. I wanted to work just enough so that I could pay for those and my car payment.

I am sure you all went through this as well, just curious what your opinions and advise was to us. It seems so stressful to deal with it, I just assume let everthing happen as it should. He seems to WANT to know what I am going to do. AHHHH----I think I want to be an ostrich and stick my head in the sand!

Z

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Zanit, I'd be jumping at the chance to work at home. One thing you won't know until you're at home is how much you'll save on work-related stuff. I went from spending $300 a month in gas to spending $50 a month, because I didn't have to drive everyday or as far. Food bills went down because I didn't have to plan for packed lunches or eat out. And if you get to keep working from home, you'll save on wardrobe expenses. Some people can't handle being at home all the time, so I don't know about you... but I'm a homebody anyway. [Wink]

Wingranch, after your first pregnancy with preeclampsia, did you have to do anything different with the next ones? That's my only worry with the next pregnancy is the preeclampsia... if it'll be considered high-risk, if I'll have to see a specialist, be on total bedrest, etc. Hopefully I'll be at home full-time before the next pregnancy, so I won't be as stressed.

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Zanit- I'm going back to work when Lily is 8 weeks old (2 weeks - boo!) and i'm not looking forward to it AT ALL. If I could work from home I'd jump at the chance. I think its completely doable if you prioritize and take advantage of when the baby sleeps.

I'd take the 2 months of leave and not do work, just so you and the baby can get into a routine of sorts. I finally feel like I'm finally getting into the hang of things...she's napping more predictably, so I can (most of the time) count on times of peace. But it took a good month or so to get into that routine. Plus, it will give you time to recover, and decide if staying home is what you want to do.

Like I said, if I could work from home, I'd jump at the chance. The thought of going back to work full time is tearing me up. But unfortunately we have a mortgage to pay so i don't have a choice.

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Good luck horsesnfx! [big Grin]

I don't have any kids of my own, but other people's 'foal watches' are great. [big Grin]

My sister is having her 3rd, due April 2008. She already has 2 girls (3 and 4) and I think she is after a boy this time!

Did anyone else name their baby bumps? Sister did, and it stuck, so her eldest is still nicknamed 'Bumpy'! I nicknamed the second 'Lumpy', but it didn't catch on, sadly. [Wink] This one I am calling 'Grumpy', though not in earshot of sister! [Crazy][ROTFL]

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Spacy- What are your plans for the baby after you go back to work? Are you looking into day care etc? We talked about that, but don't know if the benefits out way the negatives.

I make decent money for the area that we live in, but after the mortage and bills we of course live pay check to pay check.

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I work from home and have for almost four years now. It can be done but it is not easy at times, especially as they get older, mobile and want more of your time and attention. But I wouldn't trade it for anything.

One of the best things I did was find a sitter for at least one day a week. That allowed me to make work phone calls in peace and do other work-related things in peace. I now have a sitter two mornings a week.

Having a schedule is also a great help. I knew when my son was going to nap or need to eat so I could plan phone calls/work around that. He still takes an afternoon nap (he'll be four in March) so I can get work done then.

What kind of work would you be doing from home?

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I am a land use planner, so much of my work would be computer work and customer service. I also provide clients with advice or project management for their subdivision, conditional use pemrit and other land use actions. I also work closely with the cities and other jurisdictions as far a public relations go.

I would likely need a sitter for part of a week so that I can stay in touch with the working community that I utilize for business.

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Spacy,

Ha ha.... that's kind of what I figured would happen to her. My oldest insisted I was having a girl from day 1. They both are very caring and gentle boys, they always get compliments from adults on how good they are to each other/other kids. [Wink]

I can't wait to have a girl but kind of scary at the same time.

Destined,

I didn't do anything different with my last pregnancy or this one. The two boys, it crept up on me just in the last few weeks, so they didn't do much preventative. With this one, they are monitoring me closely and I had been good, until the last appt in November, when my top and bottom numbers of my BP jumped 30 pts each. My urine is good and at the last appt. My BP at my last appt. was OK, but not bad, so we'll see. Who knows..??

I only wish I could find something "legit" to do from home. I have searched and searched with no luck at all. It is very scary to jump into something without being able to guarantee that it is legal and long lasting. So.... guess I'm going to stay working. [Frown]

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RR - got it and sent one back. [smile]

Zanit - I don't think it would be too much for you to handle, especially with a newborn (not right away though - at least take a month off because you'll need it to adjust). They sleep so much in the beginning it's easier to work. And clients are much more understanding these days about telecommuting and having kids.

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