JoMarieM

The Santa Claus Thing. . .

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When my daughter was young ( a hundred years ago!) she believed in Santa until she was about 9. I never used Santa as leverage for good behavior. I was very careful not to get caught putting out presents. It was almost a cat and mouse game. I did the same thing growing up and it's a wonder my parents got any sleep! But the memories I had, and my daughter had, are priceless! It is a beautiful magical and uplifting season, even when I was up at three in the morning hand sewing a stick horse using material from an old dress, a mop for hair, a mop handle, and two buttons from an old coat because that is all I could give her that year. At thirty five she still remarks how much she loved that stick horse. Watching her ride around the yard brought tears to my eyes. I was working as a waitress and I was all she had. Her father... well never mind. She never asked for extravagant things, she knew I couldn't afford it. It was a time that we made gifts by hand, and treats we made ourselves. Coming from a well-to-do family, I wanted her to appreciate the little things, and to this day she still does. Because my 1/2 sisters were from my mothers second marriage, they received all they ever asked for. They grew up very materialistic and are never happy with what they have. They can't figure out how I can be happy without traveling to different countries or buying the best clothes. I never asked or received but two things Christmas morning, my new pajamas on Christmas eve and one small gift on Christmas day. I never felt slighted, and appreciated even the smallest of gifts because that's who I was and still am. My daughter and now her daughter still believe in "the spirit of Christmas" and the birth of Jesus. She will teach her daughter that happiness doesn't have a big price tag on it. We will keep the magic, and leave the commercialism behind. It's what comes from the heart, not the wallet.

We are our childrens teacher in life, and if given everything they expect everything. We are not their "best friends" we guide and steer them into adulthood. You cannot reason or argue with a child. We pick them up and dust them off when they fall, but fall they must. How else do they learn to pick themselves up and feel good in their own accomplishments?? Merry Christmas to all....

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i find it interesting that all the people that think it may be -for a lack of a better word- wrong dont have kids.

i LOVE Christmas and i LOVED growing up believing in Santa Claus. if i didnt get something i wanted i never thought it was because i was bad, i was enjoying the time i had WAY to much to worry about that. Christmas to most kids is the whole thing, the idea of it the anticipation the food the family the singing. leave Santa the F@#$% alone. and about telling kids about Santa is watching you and you better be good, what is the difference between that and God is watching us?

I agree!

And of course if you give, or rather, Santa gives, your child everything they want without any lessons in giving to others, then yes, it will send the wrong message and you will have a spoiled little brat on your hands.

BUT...what I think is a great idea is to intentionally wrap a few gifts that you want to donate- and on Christmas morning, tell your child there are a lot of people/animals out there that do without and that they can give some of their presents to the needy people/animals.

And let the child actually experience GIVING. If you got something for the animals for her to donate, let the child go with you to give to the animals at the shelter. And the same with if you got something for a needy family.

Letting children believe in Santa is not the end all be all and will not result in misguided thoughts or beliefs. As long as it is balanced.

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I think Santa is fairly innocent when it comes to kid. Like another poster mentioned, kids are only so innocent for so long and life can be magical and full of imagination for such a short amount of time. I really see no harm in telling kids that there is a Santa.. I was told that and yes, when the means kids at school in Saudi Arabia teased me and made fun of me for believing in Santa, I cried.. but I got over it obviously and I came out normal... I think :crazy:

I think as long as good parenting is involved and the parent shows the child that Christmas is about GIVING, not RECEIVING, and that is Santas true intentions, then I think everything is just fine.

When and if I have a kid, I will raise the kid with believing in Santa.. I personally see no harm in it.

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As a teacher, we teach children the difference between real and make-believe, fact and fiction. Any child who is school age, should be able to figure it out for herself. After the child has figured it out, we really should go ahead and tell them the truth. My daughter is 14 and we still believe in the "spirit" of Santa Claus, the giving of oneself without the expectation of anything in return. It's fun and helps us get into the holiday spirit.

Merry Christmas!:smileywavey:

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We did the whole Santa thing with our kids, but looking back, I don't think they ever really believed seriously.

Some part of them knew it was a game and they liked playing along and "fooling" themselves for a while.

I mean, really, when dad suddenly disappears on Christmas Eve, and in comes Santa who has the same eyes and smell as dad... it doesn't take a genius to figure that out.

They never seemed traumatized figuring out the truth, I don't even know when that happened.

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We did the whole Santa thing with our kids, but looking back, I don't think they ever really believed seriously.

Some part of them knew it was a game and they liked playing along and "fooling" themselves for a while.

I mean, really, when dad suddenly disappears on Christmas Eve, and in comes Santa who has the same eyes and smell as dad... it doesn't take a genius to figure that out.

They never seemed traumatized figuring out the truth, I don't even know when that happened.

Hehehe.... Last year, my brother in law dressed up as Santa and came with gifts. When he left, Arora said; it was Santa! His name is uncle!

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First off, as mentioned above, it's LYING. When kids discover that Santa isn't real, after all, they may wonder, "What ELSE have Mom and Dad not been honest with me about?"

The main reason I would not do the "Santa" thing.

It can also interfere with religious teaching, if you're wanting to bring up your child in the Christian faith. When a child discovers that Santa isn't real, there isn't much to stop them from thinking that God and Jesus aren't real, either.

Everyone, IMO, needs to make up their own minds regarding God, however, I did not want to plant a lie like the above we ALL know that Santa is not real.

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Pssh what are yall talking about? I still believe in Santa! If you don't believe you don't recieve. Thats what my mom always told us. I know he isn't real but I think as adults most of us lose the ability to use our imagination because it is frowned upon by so many places.

Santa isn't about being real or fake. He is about believing blindly. He is the spirit of Christmas. For us christians it is like our faith in God. We of course don't worship Santa. JMHO take it or leave it lol.

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I believed in Santa until I was 6. That year, I was awakened by voices downstairs, and went to the top of the stairs, and looked down into the living room, where my folks were setting out the presents. I caught them red-handed, and told them what I saw the next morning. My mom and I always picked a child's name off of the Angel tree in the store, and I picked out the gift for a child less fortunate than myself. I was taught that that was the true meaning of Christmas, as well as the birth of Jesus.

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I believed in Santa until I was 6. That year, I was awakened by voices downstairs, and went to the top of the stairs, and looked down into the living room, where my folks were setting out the presents. I caught them red-handed, and told them what I saw the next morning. My mom and I always picked a child's name off of the Angel tree in the store, and I picked out the gift for a child less fortunate than myself. I was taught that that was the true meaning of Christmas, as well as the birth of Jesus.

THIS!

it is ALWAYS the parents responsabillity to teach their children about giving and recieving. santa has nothing to do with it.

there are spoled brats in both camps, and wonderful kids in both camps. it isnt believing in santa that make them so, but how the parents present santa and christmas.

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