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14 hours ago, jubal said:

I heard it could be felt in Sacramento, but I didn't think it would be strong enough to affect  a pool that far north. Any shaking at all would freak me out!

There were reports of pool water  in El Paso Tx reacting. 

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It’s been an interesting week. Had our sons BD party on Saturday. He brought his mini bike, everyone rode it and then as men will do, they decided to make a ramp. Son landed wrong, broke his tibia in 2 places. He’s had 3 surgeries in 3 1/2 days. The calf muscle spasms and swelling were so bad they had to do an emergency fasciotomy to prevent nerve damage to the lower leg, warning us skin grafts might be needed to close it at a later date. Second surgery was to close the fasciotomy which was a success without grafts and yesterday they plated and pinned the head of the tibia and removed the external fixation hardware. 

He comes home here with us tomorrow and cannot bend the leg for 2 wks. then goes back to remove sutures and get orders for rehab. He’ll be out of work at least 3 mo. That’s going to devastate him financially. I feel certain they will hold his job though but being he has to climb ladders on oil tanks for readings, I don’t know how he can possibly fulfill his duties for a while. He’s kicking himself for not taking the supervisor position he was offered, he’d be better off when he went back to work. 

This is so much harder than Paul’s ordeal, he’s my baby, I want so badly to take his place and bear the pain and hard times ahead. 

 

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*shudders* and yells: Aaaaauuuuuuurgh!  That looks painful, though it appears he will heal well.  I'm sorry it is going to take the time it takes for him to get back to 100%.  I'm sure that's worrisome and frustrating.

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1 hour ago, noponies said:

Kid with hands on hips telling Dad "why you do dumb things?"

:rotf:That’s what this mama was thinking. If I had been out there I would have said oh he!! no you ain’t doin that! He said a little voice told him don’t do it and he ignored it. What a way to turn 40.  

The orthopedic PA put it into perspective, said he loves his job because most of the people he treats were living life to the fullest.

There are 2 videos of the wreck from two different angles. I can’t bring myself to watch them yet. 

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That's painful to look at!  I can't imagine. I guess you can always play the "it could have been worse" scenario. It could have been something that couldn't be pinned (like his brain.) I'm sorry for him but men...

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Yes it can always be worse, the skin grafts would have been so much worse. Much better to have broken bones than nerve or spinal damage too.  

He’s home with us now. He had a bad day and night but seems as if the leg is settling down now. I feel he will be here longer than I thought he would be. Car transfers are extremely difficult with a leg that doesn’t bend. The long drive home, bumpy country roads and the porch stairs into his house will have to wait a while. 

Cooked dinner for the fam last night and was up last night on medication duty, I am pooped but we’ll be a fine tuned machine in a few days. 

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Whew!  Sounded like a mountain of obstacles to overcome but it seems you guys are getting a handle on things pretty quickly.  I'm sorry he had a bad day and night, those are no fun for anyone.  The person with the pain is feeling it and everyone around them is 'feeling' it too, but mostly wishing they could take the pain away.  It is a pretty helpless feeling, no matter which side of the pain you're on.  (((hugs for all)))

 

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On 7/20/2019 at 1:51 PM, Heidi n Q said:

Whew!  Sounded like a mountain of obstacles to overcome but it seems you guys are getting a handle on things pretty quickly.  I'm sorry he had a bad day and night, those are no fun for anyone.  The person with the pain is feeling it and everyone around them is 'feeling' it too, but mostly wishing they could take the pain away.  It is a pretty helpless feeling, no matter which side of the pain you're on.  (((hugs for all)))

 

Yes I definitely feel his pain. Wished several times I could take his place. 

He’s doing so much better, pain and muscle spasms have decreased. He fell Saturday night. Those **** crutches!!! Why they sent him home with those when he’s on 3 medications that make him dopey. I’ve been advocating for him to use Paul’s walker it gives him more stability. Thank the Lord the leg wasn’t compromised. He’s using the walker now and I can breathe a little better especially at night when he gets up by himself.

We Took him home yesterday for clean clothes, get his mail, and water his plants without stirring up any pain. Today our daughter is making us lunch. Be great to see my Lyra, haven’t been able to since becoming a care taker again. 

Weather is fantastic today, mid 70’s and 50% humidity. Makes me anxious for fall trip planning. 

Girl found her pockets and sampled fast food for the first time. 

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Grimmie - that was a doozy!  Hope your son heals quickly and of course, Lyra is such a cutie-pie! 

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How you gonna keep 'em down on the farm, once they've had fried food?! Pretty soon she'll be addicted to the golden arches. Kudos to your daughter for protecting her until now! Love the hands in pockets look.

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On 7/26/2019 at 7:11 PM, jubal said:

How you gonna keep 'em down on the farm, once they've had fried food?! Pretty soon she'll be addicted to the golden arches. Kudos to your daughter for protecting her until now! Love the hands in pockets look.

Lol, nope never Golden Arches! Her Dad loves to cook so they rarely eat out, kid loves healthy food, LOVES veggies any way she can get them. She still can’t eat much dairy protein and fruit like blueberries and bananas bother her. But what is so good about her is she doesn’t put up a fuss if she’s refused anything. Just takes it in stride and moves on. Her brother was that way too. 

Just sent our son home. I wanted to drive him home and Paul drive his truck but he wasn’t hearing it. His neighbor built his stairs for him so there wasn’t anything keeping him here. I just hope he’s smart about safety when he’s alone. My kids have always called me a worry wart but my background is Occupational therapy and I can’t help but see potential for falls/injury in the home when a person is recuperating. Plus I was Paul’s caretaker for 7 yrs which taught me a lot. 

Now what to do with all this time on my hands?

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Checking in. All is well. Keeping an eye on the hurricane, praying for people in the Bahamas. :mecry:

Hope all is well with everyone.   

Had a great Labor day with the fam at our daughters home. Our son started back to work Tuesday  morning on light duty. His company has been so accommodating. He’s still on crutches and a knee brace but cleared for adding 25% of his body weight on the leg per week for a month. Xrays showed the area of cadaver bone hasn’t completely filled in so his Dr is being cautious where weight bearing is concerned. 

Beginning to organize and pack the RV for our trip to Dauphin island Alabama Sept 24. Hoping there won’t be a storm in the Gulf then cuz I ain’t going.:surrender:

Lyra gets cuter and cuter and really beginning to talk. I’m Non Non now not Nana I’m ok with it because she says it so darn cute. 

WTH is Fall?

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Hi, QH. I'm sure your son was anxious to get back to work. That was a long down time for a man. Lyra will really be entertaining now, learning new words. Probably, there will be some you didn't want her to learn. When My sister was learning to talk, she picked up some cuss words. My aunt told her if she really wanted a bad one, she should say, "Oh Shelbyville!" That worked for a long time.

I'm with you. I'm ready for fall and cooler weather.

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14 hours ago, jubal said:

 When My sister was learning to talk, she picked up some cuss words. My aunt told her if she really wanted a bad one, she should say, "Oh Shelbyville!" That worked for a long time.

 

Haha that’s precious!

She’s already said “oh s#!t” but just once. Her mama has a dirty mouth but she toned it way down after that. 

Having so much fun buying things for the camper. I was in there yesterday cleaning and arranging when I realized the radio had a CD player. I fished out the cds I used before I joined Apple Music. 

I bought a good mattress pad hoping to make do with the one it came with but I don’t think it will work for me. We’re going to sleep out there one night before our trip to see if I can even move in the morning. If I’m in pain we’ll have to buy something I can sleep on. I’m a little mad that Paul sold the Joey with the mattress, we had just bought it so I could sleep in comfort. :bang_head:

This baby is hilarious, she keeps us laughing. 

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We made it to Dauphin island on Monday afternoon. Set up and had an early seafood dinner on the island, walked on the beach. Monday we drove in to downtown Mobile, walked around had lunch and ate some really great chocolate! 
Tuesday we were in Walmart buying a toaster for the RV when I got a text from my niece that her son had been in a horrific wreck on Monday night and in critical condition with a head injury internal injuries and numerous broken bones. By that night, after arresting the third time, they made the decision not to prolong his life. Carter John Nelson was 20 years young. 
 

 

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Paul and I cut our Alabama trip short one day so I could prepare for a road trip west. 
Pulled in to Turlock California around 8:00 tonight for Carter’s service on Wed. 3 days On the road with my daughter her husband and the baby. Paul kindly offered to stay home to care for the animals.

Ohmygawd I am exhausted. Ever traveled with a 19 month old still nursing baby? Bless her heart, she really was so good but we had to make so many stops so she’d get out her wiggles, it feels like we’ve been on the road a week!

I’m not prepared to see the family tomorrow, they sound devastated, no one has slept. Pray for us and them.  

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Thank you all for your kind thoughts and prayers. Got home last night exhausted. Lyra was the best traveler minus just 2 melt downs. Made lots of stops for her to nurse and play to prevent souring her to being in her car seat. 

His viewing was all day on Wednesday. My niece stood and greeted hundreds of people, often being more a comfort than she received. She amazes me. 
They had a wonderful celebration of Carters life on Thursday evening at their almond brokers ranch. My goodness what place and what an event. The family has so much love and support, I’m not concerned they will manage their grief in a healthy way. I am relieved she is taking a sabbatical from her directors position at Jessica’s House until January. They just bought a beach home near Monterrey with plans to grieve there, my niece loves the ocean.

So good to see Lyra meet and play with all her kid cousins. she had a blast. 
Paul took great care of our animals, house was clean and a doz. pale yellow roses were in a blue mason jar on the island. 

I went straight to the kitchen sink to dump my travel coffee mug and water and noticed my quart size vintage blue mason jar missing On the shelf. I said oh no did you or the cat break my blue mason jar?!! I felt bad when I saw he had put my roses in it.

We stopped at Sagoura national park on the way home. Daughter loves them insanely!
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Lyra was scared to get too close for a pic because we had stressed not to touch them. Lol you can see my hand on her arm to hold her still while I took the pic.

Kind of lost this morning, having been gone for two weeks with the Alabama and Cali. trip back to back. Think I will vegge out today and process everything before I join the living again. 

Carter loved his mom. :mecry:
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That photo, QH, of your niece and her son! It made me cry. I don't know how a parent can survive a child's death.

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On 10/10/2019 at 6:09 AM, jubal said:

That photo, QH, of your niece and her son! It made me cry. I don't know how a parent can survive a child's death.

I know! They’re all in the throws of dealing with his loss and now is when it gets tough. 

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Where has the year gone? 

Happy times with the family last night at the Halloween carnival and Mexican food after. Once Lyra got over her shyness in the crowds she had a blast playing the games. 

Not much happening of interest which is a blessing after last months loss. The Cali. family seems to be coping in a healthy way, often sharing stories and photos of Carter. life goes on. 

Did I mention they donated his organs? I feel we’ve come full circle as an organ donor family. I look forward to them receiving letters from his recipients, who will be so blessed by how my family receives them. Sad to say we still have not heard from Paul’s donors family. 

We gain an hour of sleep this weekend but feed in darkness once again. 
 

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That little girl is so frickin cute! The look, in that first picture, omg..... priceless!

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